Tea and Feminism
20-year-old Québécoise feminist and uni student, enthusiastically reblogging social justice posts and defending Québec, usually while simultaneously working on math homework.

Anonymous said: Maybe Bisexuals shouldn't use "monosexism" or maybe you should grow the fuck up and realise that you are capable of being an oppressor. I don't don't care if you feel like it's no fair for you to be lumped in with straight people, I mean as a white woman I get lumped in with white men who are oppressors but i don't try and dispute white as a privilege. I still have oppressing power over POC and you still have oppressing power over bisexuals.

atreeisatree:

In addition: bisexuals face oppression in a different way than lesbians and gay men do. MONOSEXISM IS A GOOD WAY TO DESCRIBE THAT OPPRESSION. IT’S THE SAME AS USING LESBOPHOBIA OR TRANSEXISM TO DESCRIBE THE SPECIFIC OPRESSION YOU FACE. also the first use of “femme” was to describe a bi woman.

…no, as white women we are oppressors. All white people belong in the same category if we’re talking about racial oppression. Saying that we are “lumped in” with “white men who are oppressors” suggests that we are not full beneficiaries of white privilege, or are less complicit in white supremacy, or are less possessing of white entitlement than white men. That’s not true. We have privilege as white people and specifically as white women.

Putting white men and white women in the same racial class makes sense. Neither of us have racial privilege over the other, even though men have privilege on the axis of gender. Putting lesbians in the same sexuality class as straight people doesn’t make sense because straight people marginalize lesbians on the axis of sexuality. Institutional power is not organized around two separate sexuality traits: “liking one gender” and “liking the ~opposite~ gender.” There is only one hegemonic demand: that men only like women and women only like men. [Heterosexist logic doesn’t take non-binary genders into account.] “Monosexuality” is ONLY demanded when it’s part of heterosexuality; monosexual-heterosexuality is the only sexuality class granted institutional power. Monosexual-gay sexuality is marginalized for not being monosexual-heterosexuality. Full stop.

Bi people don’t treat “liking one gender” as a separate aspect of straight sexuality, because we know it is inherent to heterosexuality and necessary for straight privilege. If we truly thought that “liking one gender” was a separate axis for straight people - that monosexual privilege and heterosexual privilege are distinct intersecting privileges - we would have to admit that the other axis is simply “liking the the ~opposite~ gender,” a trait most of us share with straight people. But we don’t say that, cause that would mean we’re privileged over gay people on that axis. We only separate out exclusivity of attraction from gender(s) of attraction for gay people. Not for straight people and not for ourselves.

If you want to keep up the “monosexism is a separate axis of oppression” line, then acknowledge that “heterosexism” must simply be a system privileging people who like a gender other than their own, and own up to being privileged on that axis. Or maybe we could ditch “monosexism” altogether and talk about biphobia and bi-misogyny as aspects of heterosexism and heteropatriarchy, same as homophobia and lesbophobia. We already have language for this. “Monosexism” is unnecessary. 

I am an oppressor. Other than being a bi woman - a BI WOMAN, which I clearly said in my last post - all institutional power is stacked in my favor. Which is why it concerns me when other white bi women say that lesbians are our “oppressors” and always, immediately compare this to racial oppression. Without seeming to put any thought into racial intersections or seriously consider criticisms that “monosexism” is not intersectional.

Not only are you saying that lesbians have privilege as lesbians (no), but that all people who have any single privilege relative to you are actually your oppressorsAre lesbians of color my oppressors? How do lesbians of color access enough institutional power over me that they can oppress me as a white bi woman?

We’re saying that all lesbians have privilege over us because gay people are more represented than bi people in “LGBTQ” spaces. ["LGBTQ" spaces are not sites of institutional power; gay people being more represented there doesn’t give them institutional power.] But who actually dominates? Isn’t it white people, specifically white cis middle-class able-bodied men? Even if we’re looking specifically at lesbians, isn’t it white lesbians?

Do lesbians of color really “oppress” or even access privilege over white bi women in these spaces? Do lesbians of color have more/better media representation than white bi women? [And bi women can be represented even if bisexuality is not explicitly stated. Piper is bi.] Why do I not benefit from the continued white supremacist domination of “LGBTQ” spaces at least as much as lesbians of color benefit from having lesbian sexuality represented? Are we assuming that white lesbians fully represent the voices, needs, and experiences of all lesbians? But white bi women are not represented at all by lesbians? Because apparently the ability to like more than just women just makes us soooo different from lesbians and we can’t benefit at all from [white-centric] resources/representation for same-gender relationships or same-gender attractions.

And that’s not even looking at gender. “Monosexism” frames lesbians as having privilege over all bi people, including men. So are we saying that lesbians of color are oppressors of white bi men? What a joke. 

Anyway, maybe we as white women could think about the racial intersections of this a little more, before we immediately compare it to white privilege. 

[Also there’s no evidence Marianna Lawton was bi - she married a man for economic reasons and hoped for his early demise so she could join Anne with her inheritance. In any case, Anne Lister calling her “more womanly than me” in French has nothing to do with “femme” as the standalone English word that’s part of butch/femme.]

guerre-tranquille:

neckbearcl:

sexhaver:

okay since yall seem to be incapable of identifying fake sj posts here’s a handy guide:

  1. go to the source of the post
  2. check the tags
  3. if it’s tagged with two thousand variations of “otherkin” and “headspace” and “sj” then it is 100% fake no exceptions

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Oh man I’m gonna start showing people that bingo card.

homebeccer:

"oh my god stop criticizing young girls who like 50 Shades of Gray or Twilight you can’t tell them what they can and can’t read"

no we can’t but we have to protect young girls from mistaking abusive behavior for genuine affection at all costs

(via thenewwomensmovement)

politicalsexkitten:

yukaryote:

Why Guys Like Asian Girls - Anna Akana

Everyone needs to watch this video. Now.

100% on point especially about men thinking that having “yellow fever” is a compliment and we’re supposed to be flattered by it. It’s the #1 way to parade around your blatant racism.

(via samanticshift)

unicornisms:

youngblackandvegan:

astoldbywhit:

youngblackandvegan:

nuttyproff:

Timing. 

hey, baby’s gotta eat
black mommy excellence

I don’t support breast feeding in public places. Sorry not sorry. I just think there is a time and place for everything.

the time is when the baby is hungry
and the place is where the mother is able to feed the baby
everyone is always critiquing black motherhood and here we have a black woman not only graduating but giving her baby the nourishment it needs 
i think there’s a time and place for your negativity
and it’s not now and it’s not on this picture

"a time and place for everything"????
would you have infants just starve then?
what is the “right time” for a baby to eat? babies don’t keep a calendar of appointments where they can pencil in feeding time when it suits people who aren’t them and their mothers. what the fuck is this.

unicornisms:

youngblackandvegan:

astoldbywhit:

youngblackandvegan:

nuttyproff:

Timing. 

hey, baby’s gotta eat

black mommy excellence

I don’t support breast feeding in public places. Sorry not sorry. I just think there is a time and place for everything.

the time is when the baby is hungry

and the place is where the mother is able to feed the baby

everyone is always critiquing black motherhood and here we have a black woman not only graduating but giving her baby the nourishment it needs 

i think there’s a time and place for your negativity

and it’s not now and it’s not on this picture

"a time and place for everything"????

would you have infants just starve then?

what is the “right time” for a baby to eat? babies don’t keep a calendar of appointments where they can pencil in feeding time when it suits people who aren’t them and their mothers. what the fuck is this.

(via egalitariste)

onemuseleft:

ittlebitz:

starrysleeper:

Wait a minute…

I have been laughing at this for hours now…

So, true story. The woman in this photo is Kendra Kaplan. Her husband was in Iraq for twelve months but the military has this thing called leave. Some of us may recognize the concept from old episodes of Star Trek. In this photo she is five months pregnant after conceiving her second child during her husband’s leave. That envelope in her hand is the ultrasound results. She waited for him to come home to find out if it was a girl or a boy.
There’s been several articles about it.The photo resulted in this woman receiving so much hate mail, from both internet cut-ups and the actual media, that she even took a paternity test and provided proof of her husband’s leave schedule. Her real life friends have stopped talking to her over these rumors.  
Oh, and by the way, that baby bump is a two year old by now. People are still shitting on this woman over a nasty internet meme two years later.
So in short, you’re mocking a faithful wife for something that isn’t any of our damn business anyway and has long since been disproven. 
Good job Internet.

onemuseleft:

ittlebitz:

starrysleeper:

Wait a minute…

I have been laughing at this for hours now…

So, true story. The woman in this photo is Kendra Kaplan. Her husband was in Iraq for twelve months but the military has this thing called leave. Some of us may recognize the concept from old episodes of Star Trek. In this photo she is five months pregnant after conceiving her second child during her husband’s leave. That envelope in her hand is the ultrasound results. She waited for him to come home to find out if it was a girl or a boy.

There’s been several articles about it.The photo resulted in this woman receiving so much hate mail, from both internet cut-ups and the actual media, that she even took a paternity test and provided proof of her husband’s leave schedule. Her real life friends have stopped talking to her over these rumors.  

Oh, and by the way, that baby bump is a two year old by now. People are still shitting on this woman over a nasty internet meme two years later.

So in short, you’re mocking a faithful wife for something that isn’t any of our damn business anyway and has long since been disproven. 

Good job Internet.

(Source: itscalledfashionlookitup, via strawberryfemme)

rniguelangel:

You’re allowed to criticize institutions (read: university) you’re a part of. You’re allowed to want to see change. Don’t let anyone tell you you should “be grateful” because the institution is providing a service for you and you should just “accept” things as they are

(via oh-snap-pro-choice)

earthshaker1217:

countess-nara:

buckyoubucky:

"A new study shows that men are threatened by confident women taking pictures of themselves, and call these women stupid, socially inept, and ugly. In other news, the world is round, the sky is blue, and the patriarchy is still shitty."

THIS ^^^^^^^^

^^^^^ The fact that people actually spend money on these studies to research shit that irrelevant irritates me. Do you know how much money goes into committing research?

earthshaker1217:

countess-nara:

buckyoubucky:

"A new study shows that men are threatened by confident women taking pictures of themselves, and call these women stupid, socially inept, and ugly. In other news, the world is round, the sky is blue, and the patriarchy is still shitty."

THIS ^^^^^^^^

^^^^^
The fact that people actually spend money on these studies to research shit that irrelevant irritates me. Do you know how much money goes into committing research?

(Source: lady-dixon, via oh-snap-pro-choice)

The Canada Revenue Agency has told a well-known charity that it can no longer try to prevent poverty around the world, it can only alleviate poverty — because preventing poverty might benefit people who are not already poor.

The bizarre bureaucratic brawl over a mission statement is yet more evidence of deteriorating relations between the Harper government and some parts of Canada’s charitable sector. […]

Agency officials informed Oxfam that “preventing poverty” was not an acceptable goal.

“Relieving poverty is charitable, but preventing it is not,” the group was warned. “Preventing poverty could mean providing for a class of beneficiaries that are not poor.”

Oxfam Canada’s executive director called the exchange an “absurd conversation.”

“Their interpretation was that preventing poverty may or may not involve poor people,” Robert Fox said in an interview with The Canadian Press. […]

…Legal precedents mean charities cannot help people not already impoverished from falling into poverty.

“Purposes that relieve poverty are charitable because they provide relief only to eligible beneficiaries, those in need,” Brideau said in an email.

“However, the courts have not found the risk of poverty as being equivalent to actually being in need. Therefore, as the courts have indicated, an organization cannot be registered with the explicit purpose of preventing poverty.” […]

(Source: fycanadianpolitics)

smitethepatriarchy:

Apparently the newest, biggest threat to men is that people are mistaking some other kind of hat for fedoras.

I am hereby declaring that any man who wears a hat at any time is automatically wearing a fedora, no matter what kind of hat it is.