To reiterate, the problem is not with communism or discussions of communism, or even necessarily notable communist thinkers as much as it is with the way these conversations happen. I am predisposed towards mistrusting any Westerner who doesn’t clearly demonstrate that they’re aware of where Lenin stands in context. Unless some kind of commentary is provided, I have no way of knowing whether I’m looking at a post made by someone who appreciates a particular quote while being aware of the history, or someone who appreciates what Lenin’s words entailed and what he still stands for. Behind your computer screen, you may be making a distinction, but on my end, I’m uncomfortable for a very good reason. 

If you’re bringing up controversial historical figures, please please please contextualize the things you say and be cautious in general.

total-queer-move:

LOOK. IT’S EVERY SINGLE STEREOTYPE ABOUT MEN’S RIGHTS ACTIVISTS PUT INTO ONE HANDY-DANDY DEMOGRAPHICS SURVEY SO IT CAN BE STATISTICALLY VALIDATED!! [x]

THANKS R/MENSRIGHTS!!

(via cockyfeminist)

Anonymous asked: я на самом деле просто хотела знать, читала-ли ты. меня от ссср по большей части саму тошнит, но ленин не равен ссср (и особенно не всей его истории) и ссср не равен коммунизму. я знаю, что мне на эту тему еще многому нужно учиться, но чего мне точно хватает, это симплистичной западной анти-коммунистической пропаганды.

Я совсем не говорю, что я стою против коммунизма — скорее наоборот. Просто тут, на Западе, у людей часто к этому очень нехороший подход, даже если они к коммунизму хорошо расположены. Меня как человека восточноевропейского происхождения сильно задевают эти дискуссии, а доверия у меня мало — западным “коммунистам” я не доверяю, пока они не показали, что знают историю СССР и могут различить между тем, что происходило там, и тем, чем является коммунизм на самом деле.

Когда речь идет о Ленине, это меня настараживает, поскольку тут мне уже трудно понять, что здесь обсуждается, Ленин или СССР? Они же связаны, а в этих разговорах слишком часто не хватает понимания и контекста. Нужно видеть разницу между теми, кто говорит, “вот пример хорошей, умной мысли от Ленина”, и теми, кто говорит, “вот мысль, которая является хорошей потому, что это слова Ленина.”

(Насчет симплистичной западной анти-коммунистической пропаганды я согласна, мне самой надоело.)

hostilehottie:

IF YOU GENUINELY THINK THAT PEOPLE ON PUBLIC ASSISTANCE LIVE IN REALLY NICE APARTMENTS AND CAN AFFORD IPHONES AND NAME BRAND CLOTHES AND DESIGNER SHOES & PURSES AND EAT FULL STEAK DINNERS ROUTINELY AND PAY FOR THAT ALL WITH FOOD STAMPS WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU IN COLLEGE. WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU WORKING. QUIT YOUR JOB AND DROP OUT AND GO LIVE THE LIFE YOU’RE SO JEALOUS OF. WHY WON’T YOU DO THAT? IS IT PERHAPS BECAUSE YOU KNOW AS WELL AS I DO THAT YOU’RE FULL OF SHIT?

(via call-me-a-feminist-killjoy)

People can forgive toxic parents, but they should do it at the conclusion—not at the beginning—of their emotional housecleaning. People need to get angry about what happened to them. They need to grieve over the fact that they never had the parental love they yearned for. They need to stop diminishing or discounting the damage that was done to them. Too often, “forgive and forget” means “pretend it didn’t happen.”

I also believe that forgiveness is appropriate only when parents do something to earn it. Toxic parents, especially the more abusive ones, need to acknowledge what happened, take responsibility, and show a willingness to make amends. If you unilaterally absolve parents who continue to treat you badly, who deny much of your reality and feelings, and who continue to project blame onto you, you may seriously impede the emotional work you need to do. If one or both parents are dead, you can still heal the damage, by forgiving yourself and releasing much of the hold that they had over your emotional well-being.

At this point, you may be wondering, understandably, if you will remain bitter and angry for the rest of your life if you don’t forgive your parents. In fact, quite the opposite is true. What I have seen over the years is that emotional and mental peace comes as a result of releasing yourself from your toxic parents’ control, without necessarily having to forgive them. And that release can come only after you’ve worked through your intense feelings of outrage and grief and after you’ve put the responsibility on their shoulders, where it belongs.

- Susan Forward, Toxic Parents, ch 9 (via fromonesurvivortoanother)

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nataliesmoulder asked: about the "western self proclaimed communists" thing, what is your opinion on them btw, as someone with a ukrainian heritage? my family comes from a former communist country and i see a lot of people heralding communism in sjw spaces and i just.... ???? like i fucking can't. i'm all for socialsim at best, limiting captitalisim yep. but glorifying communisim as it was and stating that it needs no adjustments makes me want to hurl.

I have no problem with people discussing communism as an alternative to current economic systems, but glorifying the USSR in the process is not okay. There are so many other things that could be said that don’t rely on using a broken country as a pro-communism argument.

Number of angry messages in my inbox from self-proclaimed Western communists: 3

Number of angry messages in my inbox from self-proclaimed Western communists that I intend to reply to: 0

Take your hammer and sickle flags and arguments for why Lenin is great elsewhere.

ukrainiandystopia:

enattendantlesoleil:

raduzhno:

things I enjoy: looking at soviet propaganda in-context and discussing the symbolism in it / using it as a jumping-off point for discussion / thinking about how it affected soviet culture and mentality and still affects post-soviet-block countries today / jokes like «Слава КПСС — Не человек!»

things I do not enjoy: soviet propaganda posted without context

/stares pointedly at lenin quotes posted by western self-proclaimed communists/

Ходить Ленін та й питає,

Чого дiтям не хватає?

Нема хлiба, нема сала,

Бо комуна все забрала.

^^^

enattendantlesoleil:

raduzhno:

things I enjoy: looking at soviet propaganda in-context and discussing the symbolism in it / using it as a jumping-off point for discussion / thinking about how it affected soviet culture and mentality and still affects post-soviet-block countries today / jokes like «Слава КПСС — Не человек!»

things I do not enjoy: soviet propaganda posted without context

/stares pointedly at lenin quotes posted by western self-proclaimed communists/

(Source: internal-acceptance-movement, via imafeministanddamnproud)